How to Face Failures and Feel Confident Before Becoming Successful

You follow successful people online. You feel inspired to see their growth, achievements, and accomplishments. But sometimes, you may feel intimidated when you look into your own life. You follow their morning rituals, daily habits, nighttime routines, and so on but you don’t get the same results as they do. Then you may doubt yourself, feel unworthy or hopeless about your own life situation.

You wonder  what am I missing? What’s the real secret to their success? How do they keep on growing while I keep struggling? The secret to their success is that they are big-time failures. They go through gazillions of failures before they show up as a “success” in front of you. But you’ve probably heard that before. You already know you need to fail more to succeed.

The problem is that we keep associating our failures with being a failure in life. That’s because we take failures personally and our ego doesn’t like failures. But there’s a simple solution to that.

Facing Failures Without The Hurt

When you were a child, you were always in play mode. If you failed, you tried again like nothing happened. You kept on trying without thinking of failure as a shame. Then, school and society conditioned you to avoid failure at all cost. Since then, every time you failed, you felt like a loser.

“Failure is a detour not a dead-end street.” – Zig Ziglar

Let’s break this negative pattern immediately . Stop being so serious. Give yourself permission to fail without feeling dirty. Start playing again and let yourself fall. Remember, your failures don’t define your character. In fact, they build your character. Your failures prepare you for upcoming success. Success may be close or far away - it doesn’t matter, what matters is how you feel on your way to success.

If you spend half of your life trying to succeed in misery and a half of your life enjoying the success, you lose the game. The key is to celebrate each season of your life.

Here are 6 ways to feel confident when you’re on your way to success:

1. Close your eyes and realize how far you’ve come

Drop everything, take a deep breath and realize the difference between where you are now and where you were a few years ago. You will feel a surge of gratitude when you realize all the failures eventually worked in your favor. Even when you’ve not made a lot of progress, you have grown personally, which will help you tackle the future challenges in life.

2. Live by your values to define your own success

When you know your values and live a life true to them, you stop feeling bad about your mistakes. You become the director of your life and feel aligned with every decision of your life. You feel peaceful and happy because there is no place for blames and complaints when you make value-aligned decisions. Your values act as a guide to define what success means to you.

3. Let your burning desire guide you

Although our basic needs remain the same, we all want different things in life. You must know what you desire more than anything because a burning desire can take you to the clouds even when you’re not talented or lucky. The path to your burning desire gives you meaning and fulfillment. But if you do what others expect of you, you won’t go far and you will remain unfulfilled. When you follow your desire, you make sacrifices and overcome all the obstacles with an intense drive within you.

4. Derive fulfillment from different sources

So often, we make the mistake of making our whole life about one goal. Having a laser-focus on a goal is not a bad thing, but it is always a good idea to derive meaning from different sources. When you have different ways to find fulfillment in life, you can remain focused on your bigger goals when the going gets tough. But if you quit other aspects of your life and well-being, you won’t stand the low points of your journey. You got to keep yourself sane to reach your big goals.

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” – Thomas Edison

5. Define your purpose and live it today

A lot of suffering comes from focusing too much on  yourself. Working on yourself and your goals is important, but when you have a greater purpose that shifts your focus on serving others, your drive becomes much stronger. You don’t have to wait to start serving people. You can start today with minimal resources by focusing on one person at a time. A mission bigger than yourself is the secret sauce to life fulfillment.

6. Put on blinders to run your own race

We all know that comparison is the thief of joy, yet, we compare our lives with other’s lives whether or not we realize it. The reason is that humans are wired to form social hierarchies as our ancestors did. You have to rewire your brain to compare yourself only with your past self. We never know the full story behind people’s lives, just like they don’t know ours. Own yourself and your unique challenges to write your epic life story.

Struggling and suffering are two different things. Struggling for your goals leads to success and fulfillment. While suffering is no way to live or stick to your goals. Don’t wait for big successes to feel confident. Find success in your failures until you reach your goals.

When you stop letting failures make you feel like a failure, you allow yourself to open the doors to greater success. You may have been waiting for success to feel good about yourself but you don’t have to wait anymore. Success will come when the time is right. But the time to feel confident is today.

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Why Warren Buffett Embraces Not Knowing Everything and You Should Too

While the new generation of billionaire entrepreneurs like Mark Zuckerberg and Elon Musk seem to get involved in everything from space travel to foreign politics, Warren Buffett, the world’s most successful investor and one of the world’s richest men, embraces not knowing everything.

The “Oracle of Omaha” spends 8 hours a day reading, doesn’t use a computer and only invests in companies and industries that he understands. He has generated a 20.9% return on his investments from 1965-2017, more than doubling the average return of the stock market!

In this article, I will look at why Buffet embraces his lack of knowledge of things like tech and complex derivatives and how the average person can apply these 2 pieces of advice to achieve more success!

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“The Outsiders: Eight Unconventional CEOs and Their Radically Different Blueprint For Success” by William Thorndike is the most recommended book among the Silicon Valley crowd and focuses on unusual CEOs such as Harry Singleton of Teledyne and Warren Buffett of Berkshire Hathaway whose returns for investors trounced their peers.

The book found that all of these CEOs used two rules for making decisions:

1. They view their most important job as the allocation of resources. That sounds a little technical but basically, it means making sure that both financial resources like money, stocks, and bonds and human resources like employees, management, and talent are all being used for their best and most efficient purpose.
2. They think like investors, not managers. While a manager might need to think about the day to day workings of a business (taking up valuable time by having to learn things like astrophysics from youtube videos for example), an investor simply has to be able to evaluate what something is worth and what others are willing to pay for it. Because of that, investors can focus on creating value to raise the overall stock price.

“It’s better to hang out with people better than you. Pick out associates whose behavior is better than yours and you’ll drift in that direction.” – Warren Buffett

Let’s look at two ways you can apply these ideas to your daily life:

1. Resource allocation can make you more successful

When I say resource allocation, what I really mean is being efficient with your money, time and energy. One of the biggest problems we have as humans is inefficiency! We waste time, energy and money by not allocating our resources correctly. Take budgeting for example. Only about 41% of people claim they use a household budget.

How can you know if you’re managing your money correctly if you don’t keep track of where it’s going? You can’t. But the greatest way we waste our resources is through wasting time. Money and energy can be replenished but time is the one resource you will never get back. How are you using your time?

Are you building a better future for yourself and your family or are you wasting it playing video games or re-watching movies you’ve already seen a hundred times? Being more aware of how you allocate your time, money, and energy while focusing on finding the best and highest use for each will help you become more successful.

2. Think like an investor and you can be more successful

A few months ago I read and reviewed the 50-year anniversary of Buffett’s letters to investors. In 50 years of incredibly well-written, funny letters, Buffet boils down his investment theory to 2 points:

1. What is something worth?
2. Does the price reflect value?

In the letters, Buffet revises the old analogy that a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush- unless that is he writes you know exactly how many birds are in the bush and how likely they are to come out.

When thinking about all life decisions from whether or not to go back to school or start your own business, you want to think like an investor and ask yourself what is it worth you to and what price are you willing to pay to achieve this?

“It is not necessary to do extraordinary things to get extraordinary results.” – Warren Buffett

Nothing in this world is free, everything comes with a price if simply in the opportunity cost of pursuing one option over another. Asking yourself if this is something that is worth it to you and if you are willing to pay the price for pursuing it will help you think like an investor and make better decisions.

The world is full of so much information that we cannot possibly take in and understand it all. Instead of trying to learn everything about everything, Warren Buffett and other superstar outsider CEOs focus on the allocation of resources and thinking like Investors, not managers.

Which one of the principles Warren Buffett uses resonates most with you and why? Let us know your thoughts below!  

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Beware of The Trap of Entrepreneurial Success

Building a successful company is what every entrepreneur dreams of and works towards relentlessly. Running a 6 or even 7 figure business is the ultimate goal of countless founders and entrepreneurs; it seems to be the answer to all problems. Yet, during my time working with business owners who’ve “made it,” I observed that entrepreneurial success is extremely glorified. Having clients/customers rolling in and high sales are (surprisingly) not the magic bullet to a fulfilling life, and as effortless as most people picture it.

In fact, it’s probably one of the most stressful and exhausting responsibilities one can ever take on and most entrepreneurs are not prepared for it. Getting a business up and running is one thing, but keeping it up in a sustainable way is a completely different thing. “Starting a business could make you rich. But that doesn’t mean you’ll be satisfied.” Charlie Wells wrote in an article for The Wall Street Journal.

When striving to achieve entrepreneurial success one should keep in mind that every opportunity comes at an opportunity cost. Problems don’t magically disappear, and as your business grows, it’ll come with a whole new set of challenges. Having no one telling you how to manage your time and where to focus means every decision is on you; Decisions that may have major impact on your company, life, and even your employees’ lives.

All of a sudden you have to learn how to lead a high-performing team and implement new systems while trying to keep a cool head to stay productive and balanced. The success of your company is still directly related to your performance as an owner and leader. No wonder burnout, chronic stress, and anxiety are some of the biggest problems accomplished entrepreneurs struggle with.

By building a company, you have to change the way you operate in it to increase the bottom line as well as your personal well being. In business, there is just as much stress with success as there is with failure. Unfortunately, many type-A entrepreneurs don’t want to get or have help.

Here are 6 Steps to getting your life back and finding joy in your work again:

1. Why did you start?

The first and most important question to ask yourself is “Why did I even start?” Oftentimes, when we set out to achieve a goal we lose ourselves in the process. What once felt like fun is now a drag.

Burnout is really the misalignment between your purpose, values, and the daily actions you take. Most entrepreneurs start their companies to create freedom and happiness for themselves, earn a good amount of money, and make an impact in the world.

If you find your life being controlled by your business, working 18 hour days and feeling trapped in a golden cage, examine if it wouldn’t have been easier to take a well-paying job with paid vacation and benefits instead of sacrificing your health, family, and sanity. Reevaluate your priorities and get back to your original intention, why you’re doing what you’re doing and who you’re doing it for.

2. Success addiction

Many entrepreneurs are in some form addicted to the high of accomplishment, to sprinting from goal to goal and achieving milestones they set for themselves. Being a type-A myself, I know how it feels to suffer for the sake of success, not being able to relax and enjoy the journey.

When your self-worth is tied to your achievements, you experience constant pressure and are very hard on yourself. Ironically, your goals don’t usually create emotional fulfillment in the way you expected. Finding purpose in achievement is what got you here, yet it’s emotionally draining and will eventually burn you out.

When you care more about how your life looks like than how it feels, you’re missing the point of true success. The second step of detaching yourself from your business and getting your life back is to explore what drives you. Realize that the accomplishment of goals is not success but how much you expand and who you become in the process.

“As entrepreneurs, we’re achievers! Every time we achieve something, we systematically move the goal post even further. What we don’t do is stop and celebrate our wins and acknowledge our accomplishments.” – Tony Robbins

3. Balance and Self Care

When your company grows fast, your life changes just as quickly and you may not have the time to figure out how to take care of yourself. Maximizing your mental and physical potential and making yourself a priority is crucial to your level of success as an owner and leader.

Practicing meditation, spending time by yourself to reflect and moving your body are essential components to a well-balanced life and sustainable business. Level up emotional intelligence and change your perspective towards stress in order to increase your resilience and ability to handle setbacks.

Connor Beaton, founder and CEO of Man Talks emphasises on the importance of living a balanced life “The key to feeling fulfilled is to approach your life from a broader, wholesome perspective. If professional success is your sole focus, other departments of your life – like relationships and personal development – will suffer.”

4. The Sweet Spot

Having meaningful impact, finding personal happiness and freedom and making great money are the three main components of a fulfilling business. Most entrepreneurs are thriving in one or two of these areas, while lacking in the third one, wondering why they feel frustrated, burnt out and unhappy.

The sole purpose of running a business isn’t to just make a profit but to also contribute positively to society. As Mark Williamson, author of Action for Happiness suggests, “People who have meaning and purpose in their lives are happier, feel more in control and get more out of what they do. They also experience less stress, anxiety and depression.”

Yet, on the other hand, owning and running a company that doesn’t support one’s personal values and only focusing on money and impact can get incredibly exhausting. Too many people are living other people’s definition of success, chasing the paper, but not the dream of freedom and independence.

5. Busyness vs productivity

Busy people multitask. Productive people focus. By the end of every day, ask yourself if you feel a sense of pride or exhaustion. When I started my own business, I fell into the trap of working way too many hours without making much progress. I learned that being busy does not equal productive.

Essentially time works similar to money, the more time is available, the more we spend. Surprisingly, when there is less time to get something done, we accomplish more because we’re forced to prioritize and focus on essentials. Therefore, make it a point to have work hours as well as off time and stick to it.

Taking off weekends and not working before 9 am or after 7 pm might be a schedule that you want to incorporate in your life. Your family and friends will be grateful to you for not using your phone during dinner or scheduling meetings during a weekend trip.

“Focus on being productive instead of being busy.” – Tim Ferriss

6. Leadership and Systems

Now, that you have a team working for you, learn to let go of detail, use your energy more wisely, and build systems that give you freedom. Think about the what, not the how. Structure your company so your systems and team take care of you, instead of you having to babysit every single little task.

“If you want to run a successful business you have to know how to play to your strengths. It’s pretty easy to micromanage everything.” The reason why so many entrepreneurs miss out on atomizing their processes is that they feel like there’s not enough time available to set things up properly. Yet, in the long run, they’d do themselves a favor by taking things off their plate and scaling faster while being less overwhelmed.

Even though entrepreneurial success is what so many dream of, the opportunity comes with a set of new challenges that need to be addressed. Running a successful company has to be learned and is not as easy as many would think. If you’re looking to create sustainability for yourself, your team, and your company, reevaluate the way you operate in the business and maybe even find support in restructuring your schedule, responsibilities, and thinking patterns.

Reaching another level in business requires you to shift your perspective in many aspects to stop working in the business and start working on it instead. You must learn how to work through people as well as setting boundaries for yourself that help you separate your life from your business.

Following these 6 steps is only the beginning of taking back your life. Remember to create freedom for yourself instead of being controlled by your business or you may be missing the point of true success while on the journey.

Have you thought of being an entrepreneur? If so, what do you want to do? Let us know below!

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The Power of Persistence in Hard Times – Rise Up and Don’t Give Up

When you start on an endeavour be it business related or a personal one, there are certain expectations you have. But plans don’t always fall neatly into place and often unforeseen circumstances, delays, and setbacks occur. However, strength and persistence get you across in times like these. You realize that hopes and dreams aren’t enough but instead hard work and dedication are the way to achieve success.

This is largely the reason why most people either dread undertaking tasks that require commitment or leave them halfway. Sometimes it feels as if you experience more downs than ups as you are in the early stages. This is when your mindset has to remain optimistic and tough in order to work through the hardships and hope to come out on top.

The statement from Winston Churchill, ”If you’re going through hell, keep going,” is exceptionally apt. When you are swamped by misfortunes, disappointments, and snags, it is tempting to just flounder in wretchedness and surrender. That essentially doesn’t bode well, as Churchill noted. You need to continue moving, arranging your next activities and following up on them with certainty and persistence.

In the event that achievement was anything but difficult to achieve, everyone would be fruitful. You must bear the tempest and stay concentrated on your vision on the off chance that you will make all that you experienced advantageous.

It is heart wrenching to discover that you quit when you were a stage far from creating achievement. This is the reason you should persevere regardless. You don’t want the majority of your meticulous work to go to waste.

“If you can’t fly, then run, if you can’t run then walk if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward” – Martin Luther King Jr.

Some days it will feel as though you are gaining incredible ground. Other days, it will feel as though you have not cultivated anything. These are the days when you can get effectively demotivated. You simply need to understand that ‘persistent’ activity is superior to no activity.

The energy will continue assembling each day, regardless of how little you do. Having this attitude is extremely practical, as none of us are experts at getting it done each and every day of our lives. The minute you quit pushing forward is the point at which you let the majority of your endeavors go to squander.

Persistence is most often a choice

It’s a matter of believing in oneself and finding a way to reach the end result. If we look throughout the world in every industry, in every culture, there’s one consistent trend among successful individuals, and that trend is the ability to persevere.

Our greatest leaders — Abraham Lincoln, Martin Luther King Jr., Colonel Sanders, Mark Victor Hansen, Steve Jobs — are the ones who have persisted beyond the norm, and we should follow them to become influential leaders.

When we hear such examples of overcoming adversity, we ponder in astonishment. We may surmise that effective individuals were brought into the world with gifts we don’t have or that they have assets we can’t get to. This frequently fills in as a reason for us not being as effective ourselves. That is why these leaders stand out as having fought against all odds and accomplishing all that they did purely as a result of their dedication and self-confidence.

The conventional definition of persistence is: “Refusing to give up or let go; persevering obstinately; firm or obstinate continuance in a course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition.” Is it any wonder then, that persistence is the fundamental difference between a successful outcome and a failed one?

“Perseverance, secret of all triumphs.” – Victor Hugo

Giving up isn’t in the vocabulary of effective individuals

Finding another approach to achieve objectives is fine. Searching for backup ways to go to a similar route is okay. Yet, to the challenging and daring of heart, there is no such reality as giving up.

Being persistent is the one thing which isolates the champs from the washouts. At the point when an individual makes up his or her mind to achieve a specific accomplishment and set their concentration toward that path, refusing to be dissuaded, the person in question normally gets what they aspired to achieve.

What we in general disregard is that the majority of extraordinarily effective individuals experienced many troublesome occasions in their lives prior to attaining success, times when achievement was essentially missing. What propped them up was a hope in themselves and in making the best decision. Thus, in essence they remained persistent when times were tough and hence attained success.

How do you find it within yourself to persevere in the face of adversity? Let us know your thoughts below!

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7 Mistakes You Need to Avoid Making in Your Startup

Entrepreneurship has been recognized all over the world as a veritable tool for accelerating the development process of nations. In fact, no economy of the world can survive without entrepreneurs. Why then do a high percentage of entrepreneurs go through life as failures? Why do many become obscure and ridiculed for their failed business dream?

As an aspiring entrepreneur or entrepreneur, I know you have stopped to ask yourself this question. Here is the truth; 70% of businesses fail before the end of their second year of establishment and this has been attributed to attitudinal factor.

Yes, it is not the name that makes one a success but the way one conducts his or her business activities. To bear the title “Entrepreneur” does not add a dollar to one’s pocket. If you don’t do what is required of you, it would be virtually impossible for you to succeed in the business world.

Listed below are seven mistakes to avoid in your start-up business:

1. Don’t hire an unskilled family member or friend

There is an old maxim that says, “There is no brother in business.” As you start up your business venture, this must become a well-understood philosophy; an idea, you must carry. If your family member or friend does not have the needed skill, don’t hire him.

Hiring unnecessary hands other than for the sake of skills, is an error in the business world. If you wish to employ your unskilled family member or friend, don’t do it at the infancy phase of the business. Even at the adolescence phase, you still need to train properly your unskilled friend or relative before bringing him in.

“The secret to successful hiring is this: look for the people who want to change the world.“ – Marc Benioff

2. Never see your business venture as a bank

Successful entrepreneurs are those who view their enterprise or venture as a medium for solving problems and not as a bank. They often think of ways to solve one problem or another in the view of putting a smile on the faces of consumers and not how to drain their pockets. This is why they are able to make a success story of their career.

An individual that aspires to be a successful entrepreneur must start to view his business venture as a medium for solving problems. This mindset makes a huge difference in the life of an entrepreneur.

3. Ask questions when necessary

When a problem arises, instead of raising shoulders or being too afraid of showing this vulnerability, an entrepreneur who aspires to be successful simply asks questions from those that were there before him. Of course, these people have made similar mistakes in the past, learned the lessons and now understand it.

According to Confucius, “The man who asked a question is a fool for a minute, the man who does not ask is a fool for life.” Remember the golden rule for every business owner: “Put yourself in your customers’ place.” If you keep customers waiting for too long, they will find the nearest store. In sum, the too-proud-to-ask-attitude does not work in business.

4. Don’t promise what you can’t offer

When customers find out you are not trustworthy, they’d rather die than come back to buy from you. People are like poison when you try to bamboozle them. In fact, they go to any length to make you pay for trying to call them a fool. When a customer discovers you are not honest, he will go about telling anyone who cares to listen how fake you are.

Nothing kills a business venture more than this. Remember, most consumers rely a great deal on the information provided by their family members or friends at the point of purchase. An entrepreneur that wishes to succeed never promises what he does not offer or cannot offer.

5. Don’t mix business with pleasure

No matter how hard you try, you can never get a pleasant result by mixing oil with water. Trying to mix business with pleasure is like trying to mix oil with water. Nothing good comes out of it. A business environment is a place for solving a problem or satisfying a need. It should never be mistaken for a love nest or a beer parlor.

Solving a problem is no child’s play; it demands all of a person. Spending more time and other resources on things that are less important to the growth of the entire business can kick an entrepreneur out of business faster than you can think.

“You shouldn’t focus on why you can’t do something, which is what most people do. You should focus on why perhaps you can, and be one of the exceptions.” – Steve Case

6. Never stop to research and scan through the market for business opportunities

In the face of ever threatening competition, an entrepreneur who aspires to be successful must never stop to research and scan through the market for ideas or business opportunities. Because the moment he stops to do this, his products or way of doing business becomes an old fashion.

An entrepreneur should ensure to always watch the products and advertisements of competitors in order to find the holes and fill them. Implementing new business ideas or improving on the existing ones is the panacea to an entrepreneurs success in today’s fast-moving business climate.

7. Avoid doing things not critical to the development of your enterprise

An entrepreneur who knows what he wants, sets goals and a series of intermediate goals to achieve it. Engaging in too many activities at the same time is an error in the business world. To attain his objectives, his activities must revolve around his set goal.

To avoid doing things not in alignment to the survival and development of his business, he must write down his goals and mark the ones he wants to work on first, second, third, and so on. A technology entrepreneur Elon Musk said, “People work better when they know what the goal is and why.”

If you aspire to be a successful entrepreneur simply act on these instructions.

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